Words To Live By from Iyanla Vanzant...

"You create with your words the conditions that you will face. You limit with your fear the coming forth of your desires. You have the ability to be what you want in the place you may choose. Simply follow the divine prescription for unfettered success, "Begin within.” - Iyanla Vanzant

Start your day strong; as soon as you awaken, feed your mind and spirit with words that inspire you and give you the drive and fortitude to go on. Here are some inspirational quotes from Iyanla Vanzant for you to think about as you begin your day.

Acceptance

We are always looking for the perfect relationship. The goal is to find that perfect someone who will make our lives a better place to be. But no one can give us what we don't already have. We have to ask ourselves, "Am I doing my best, giving my all, being the best I can be to myself?" When we can pass the test of self-acceptance, the perfect someone who will compliment all that we already are will walk right through the door.

Affirmation

Be daring! Be bold! Call the things you desire into being so that your life will come into alignment with your greatest expectations. Focus on and affirm the experiences you desire.

Be Honest and Forgive Yourself

When you feel guilty, admit what you have done to yourself. Admit what you have done to another person. Examine your motives and the information that was available to you at the time. Be honest and forgive yourself.

Change

One of the primary reasons we do not take the necessary steps to move out the misery of our issues is because we fear or become overly concerned with what other people involved will do. The key is not to worry about what the other person might do, by staying focused on what you will do. If you really want to change your condition, you must have the courage to stand firm.

Challenge

Trouble comes to pass, not to stay. You can trust life to give you the courage that is required to do anything or face anything. Challenge comes to make you, not break you.

Courage

Courage not only means being able to do something new. It also means taking steps to "be" someone new. One of the first steps in developing a courageous outlook to life is being able to look at ourselves, our beliefs, attitudes, and patterns. Courage enables us to examine. Examination enables us to choose.

God Has Given You Clear & Open Sky

You've got wings, and God has given you a clear and open sky. Wings are not those feathered things that sprout from armpits; wings are ideas nurtured with love. They are fears you face and dismantle. They are the kind of things you do for yourself and for others when no one is watching. They are the positive things you say to you about you.

Grieve

When we lose a loved one to death or end a long-term relationship, it is perfectly normal to grieve. We must honor and recognize each stage of grief and every emotion we have. When we do not grieve, we get stuck. We owe it to ourselves and the memory of the relationship to grieve and cleanse our soul.

Growth

If you are in a relationship that causes you imbalance and anguish, get out. We come together in relationships to grow, not to live in misery.

Life Is A Process

Life is a process. The process begins with a willingness to clean out the heart and open the mind. The result is awareness, alignment, and harmony within the being. When there is alignment within the self, the mysteries of the spiritual realm and the wealth of life are at your disposal.

No Fear

It takes a lot more courage to let something go than it does to hang on to it, trying to make it better. Letting go doesn't mean ignoring a situation. Letting go means accepting what is, exactly as it is, without fear, resistance, or a struggle for control. Letting go means standing still and letting the world, or a piece of it, crumble at your feet while saying to yourself, "Hmmm, that's interesting!”

Opportunity

You can't do anything as long as you are afraid of what might happen. Fear clouds opportunities, erases possibilities, and limits the ability to move beyond the place in which the mind is stuck. No matter how difficult we think the problem is, we must muster up the courage to face it and open ourselves to the opportunities that waiting for us when we do.

Quality

It is our individual responsibility to set the standards for quality in our lives. Do we have peace in our lives? Do we have a source of happiness? Are we living up to the standards we set for ourselves? We must decide for ourselves what we want.

Self Love

Self love doesn't require a crowd or a partner, a plan or a purpose. Some of the best loving is just being okay with you.

Set Boundaries

If you want your relationships with other people to be healthy and fulfilling, surrender your expectations and set clear boundaries. When you let people know what you need and want, they can decide if they want to be involved.

Stand Your Ground

When you acknowledge that you are afraid, you are reminding yourself to call forth your strength. Rather than wasting time and energy running away from the things we fear, we can stand our ground, thereby developing the courage required to move beyond the fear.

Strength

Most of us know exactly what it is that creates the pain, confusion, stagnation, and disruption in our lives. When we find something or someone creating in our lives that which we do not want, we must have the courage and strength to stop it.

Support Yourself

If we are not nurturing and supportive of ourselves, why would we expect it from anyone else? Our relationships can only be reflections of the relationships that we have with ourselves.

Take A Breath

Give yourself a moment to take a breath. Allow everything that you are feeling and thinking to move through your body. Call forth the strength, courage, wisdom, insight, power, and love of the spirit of life.

Work Together

Whether in business or personal relationships, what makes working together so difficult is the individual need to be right and to have things our way. As long as we have a position to hold on to we can not come together or work together.

Let's end this post with my favorite words to live by from her "Take more time to listen to your heart."

Truly Yours,

The Queen Of Africa