These 3 Sentences Will Change Your Life | Part One

I said yes, when I wanted to say no., I don't want to do that. He became physically violent with me. I'd never been in an abusive relationship before and I don't have the, I felt as if I didn't have the profile of a woman who would ever be abused, verbally, emotionally, and sure not physically.

And I remember when that relationship finally ended, and I was grateful that it ended, and I was alive because there were some days when my life was in danger. I had so much guilt and anger and blame and more than anything, shame.

How did I get here?

And the bigger question was, how will I get out?

How do I move from this place?

I remember sitting in the doctor's office, sitting on the table and she asked me a myriad of questions. She left the room and came back with a piece of paper in her hand, and she said, Lisa, you are clinically depressed, and I need to give you this prescription. And I looked at the piece of paper and it said, Lisa Nicholas, Prozac. I didn't see that level of sad coming. I think when sad comes you don't know it's coming.

It's a little, one little circumstance, another circumstance, another missed moment, where you don't speak your mind, another moment when you don't say what's on your heart, another moment when you say yes and you really wanted to say no, another moment when you just put everyone else in front of you.  And here I was in the doctor's office clinically depressed. I asked my doctor, could I do something before I fulfilled the prescription, could I try something else?

Because when she said I was really, really sad what I realized was that I had just forgot who I was, that I had become Jalani's mom, that's all I was. I had become his fiancé, that's all I was. And then I was the woman that he abused.  And then I was the daughter trying to hide the abuse from my father, my mother. And then I was the motivational speaker trying to hide the fact that I was sad from everyone. I just forgot who I was. And so, I asked her, can I have 30 days to just discover me again? And I did three things. One, I put affirmations all around my house reminding me who I was.

You are an unrepeatable miracle.

You are beautiful in your own right, you are.

You deserve healthy love.

You are a child of God.

Everywhere I could look in my house was a post-it notes reminding me of who I was.

I read scriptures and I read words that showed me my birthright and then every day I got in the mirror, and I completed three sentences.

I looked in my eyes and I said Lisa, I'm proud that you and I found seven things to celebrate Lisa for.

And the second sentence was Lisa, I forgive you for, and I found seven different things to cut the shackles of blame, shame, guilt, regret, and anger around.

And I said Lisa, I commit to you that, and I made seven different commitments to myself every day for 30 days. And when I went back to the doctor, I was completely ready to take the prescription and fill it if I needed to and I share it with her, she asked me question after question after question again and then at the end she goes, I have two questions for you, Lisa.

I said, what?

She said, what have you been doing for the last 30 days, and can I use it with other patients because I had found my way back to me.

Lisa Nichols

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