Let's Outsmart Our Beliefs

If you have a big goal or dream and you don't act on it, it may be because you don't understand the future you may lose if you don’t take action. ~

To let something new into our life, we have to let go of something old first—old habits, beliefs, or even material possessions.

Easy said than done. It’s because we more or less know how to deal with that old situation, even if it causes us harm. So why change our habits, beliefs, or our old furniture? It's simpler to try to change others. Or to wait for magic to happen that will shift our circumstances. We may think that changing an old situation is too drastic because it will cause us to lose something familiar, even if the situation causes us damage. Right? You know about those things. There’s more to it, though.

Old habits keep our soul small.

If we’re in the habit of making ourselves small, we’ll have little incentive to outgrow our current situation. We get so used to it that we approach everything from that perspective. Being a small version of ourselves becomes much more alluring than the power of our potential.

So we only consider changing something when it starts to do us serious harm. And often, the changes remain minimal until something critical occurs and our dreams and goals start to fall apart. We feel the intense regret of losing those dreams, and we begin to bargain with life. And only when we sense that regret to the core of our soul, something deep inside of us begins to stir. That’s when our motivation starts to change because we realize that we may lose our dreams forever. Have you ever felt like this? We mourn the loss of a promising future, and it hurts. But a part of us fears the possible loss of the old. For that part, the old, painful situation is far more precious than our potential bliss. So, we balance between two uncomfortable feelings—the discomfort caused by the old situation and the discomfort caused by our possible freedom and joy. It may feel more uncomfortable to lose the old familiar harm than to give up the potential for happiness.

It’s as if we believe that renouncing the certainty of our pain now is worse than renouncing the possibility of pain in the future.

Without being fully aware of it, we believe that it’s worse to abandon the present hurtful discomfort than to regret abandoning the possibility of our magnificence. Let’s outsmart these beliefs You know you get the same result only when you continue to do things in the same way. Therefore, a bad result needs a different approach. What you’re giving up is doing the same thing over and over. Because you want better results. Right? If you change your behavior, the probability of being hurt in the future is less than the 100% harm assured by your old habit in the present. Makes sense?

Most people don't care about their potential. They stay in the same old place, place that isn't working. Did you know that only about 6 out of 100 people break out of their old habits, even if they know how to do it?

But for the 6% who decide to step out of their old comfort zones, everything in their life shifts. Will you be the one of those six?

Laura van den Berg-Sekac

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