Empower Your Life: Create Your Own Guiding Principles for Success

Hey there! So, you know how we always talk about trying to get our lives together and how it's such a challenge? I’ve been thinking about creating my own set of rules to live by—my personal guidelines to help me stay on track and avoid repeating the same mistakes. So, I did it, It’s like setting up a game plan for life, but these rules are all about what works for me, not what someone else thinks I should do.

I used to hate the idea of rules. They felt like these annoying restrictions someone else imposed on me. Remember how much many of us used to hate all those rules as kids? And don’t even get me started on office rules! But here’s the thing: we already live by certain unwritten rules—we just don’t think of them that way. It's time to take control and make some rules that actually help us, not hold us back.

These new rules aren’t about restricting us; they’re about empowering us. Think of them as guiding principles to help us lead more fulfilling lives. They’re meant to keep us from stumbling over the same roadblocks again and again. And the best part? We create them ourselves, from a place of love and self-respect. It’s like tapping into our higher selves—the part of us that truly knows what’s best for us.

When we set these rules, it’s important to come from a positive, empowering place. We’re not doing this to punish others and ourselves, but these rules are meant to nurture and support our own growth. These rules are non-negotiable, and we don’t need to explain them to anyone. They’re our life oxygen, meant to keep us grounded and focused.

So, how do we come up with our own life rules? It’s about identifying the areas where we often let ourselves down or where others drain our energy and steal your joy. Here’s how I started:

Complaints

Rule 1: I am a complain-free woman. I realized I was spending so much time complaining about colleagues, which wasn’t helping anyone, especially not me. I decided to focus on what I can change—my own reactions and solutions. It's about getting things done, not about griping.

Family Boundaries

Rule 2: I do not call certain close family members first thing in the morning or right before sleeping. Some family members just drain my energy. I can't cut ties completely, but I can manage when and how I interact with them to keep my sanity intact.

Letting Go of Resentment

Rule 3: I am a woman who let it go and let it be. Holding onto resentment is like dragging around heavy chains. It keeps me from flying high. Letting go frees up my mind for better things.

Self-Worth

Rule 4: I am everything God says about me and nothing less. My worth isn’t tied to someone else’s approval. I remind myself daily that I am valuable just as I am.

Money Rules

Rule 5: My money, my rules. Last year, I got frustrated contributing to social events that didn’t feel right to me. Now, I have clear guidelines of who I am going to help, how and why and when I give. It’s all about aligning with what feels right for me.

Do l slip up sometimes, of course I do. We’re all human. But that’s when I’ll hug myself, dust myself off, and try again the next day. It’s like learning to walk—you wobble and fall, but you get back up and keep going until we do it without thinking about it.

Now, here’s a crucial part: Keep these rules in a journal that you can revisit throughout the day. It helps reprogram your mind and reinforces your commitment. Writing them down makes them more tangible and gives you a handy reminder whenever you need a boost. This way, these rules become a natural part of who you are.

My hope is that sharing this helps you think about your own life rules. Write them down, keep them close, and let them guide you. Remember, these rules are about loving yourself enough to want the best for you. And in the long run, they’ll positively impact your whole life.

With all my heart,

Salima